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Helping women with ADHD with UOPX alumna Michelle Kooi

Michelle Kooi | Episode 20


0:00 I'm on a mission to help people redefine success. I spend a lot of time with my clients really helping them identify their values and really helping them with building self-trust and self-confidence. 0:12 A lot of really smart driven people, they are so busy and so focused on their work that they become disconnected from themselves. 0:34 Hello and welcome to the Degrees of Success podcast. I'm your host, Freda Richards. Today we have an incredible guest, Michelle Kooi. 0:42 She's an entrepreneur, she's a soon to be author, and she's a life coach focusing on women entrepreneurs with ADHD. 0:51 Help me welcome Michelle Kooi. Okay, so I want to jump in with you about who you are, where you came from. 0:59 um Obviously you were an incredible 爱污传媒 alum. So let's start from the beginning. Tell us about the foundation. 1:05 Where did you grow up and what was your childhood like? Yeah. So I grew up in Arkansas. um And I grew up uh riding horses. Childhood Influences and Aspirations 1:14 That was my favorite thing to do. And I was also a competitive gymnast. um I loved school. 1:22 I didn't really ever have to study until college. 1:27 School just came naturally to me. um I remember getting an award in like 1:33 first or second grade for reading the most books of anyone in the class. I was a big reader. 1:39 I was very shy um and really spent a lot of time um outdoors. 1:47 went to summer camp and actually in Colorado up in Estes Park for four summers, just horseback riding and hiking in the Rocky Mountain National Park. 1:57 Wow, so you've been around nature, like that's what you've loved for a very long time. 2:03 Yes, my family, um we went camping ah in Arkansas twice a year with a big group of people. 2:11 And we also came out to Colorado camping. My parents brought me to Colorado when I was seven to go skiing. 2:17 And we would come out every year and ski. So I decided, I announced to my parents when I was, I think 10 in fourth grade, that I was going to go to college in Colorado. 2:28 And I never changed my mind. they had to be really proud of you and at 10 you had college aspirations. 2:36 I did. Because you're a big reader. so at 10 you at 10 you were already preparing for your future. 2:44 So it sounds like you were very driven even as a young child, a big reader, very active. 2:50 Who was your inspiration to can to like instill that in you so early? 2:56 I mean, probably my father and my grandfather, they're both attorneys. 3:02 um And um my next door neighbor was a doctor. 3:08 um I just wanted, I didn't know what I wanted to do. em But I knew I had an insatiable love for learning. 3:18 you know, I still do. um And so there was like not even a thought that 3:25 that would not be a path for me going to college. With all these lawyers in your family and you being driven, knowing exactly where you wanted to go to college, did you ever have the lawyer bug? 3:38 Um, no. So I, my whole family is an attorney's, my, my brother is a, a water lawyer. 3:45 My grandfather was an estate lawyer. My dad is a defense lawyer and my uncle is an insurance lawyer. 3:53 So, uh, I was the really the only one that went in a different direction. 3:58 Um, and, but I worked at my dad's law office for four summers, uh, starting at the age of 14. 4:05 Um, and worked there for four summers and I was so bored. 4:12 I was like, this is not for me uh from what I saw. later on in life, if I had known that attorneys could do other things and work in different areas, I may have gone down that path into environmental law or business law. 4:31 Yeah, you know, when I was reading your bio, it makes sense to me that your family had a lot to do with justice because you two fight for justice, whether it be for your clients, 4:43 making sure that they feel seen and heard and uh fighting for space and a room at the table. 4:50 So it makes sense to me. It's actually in alignment uh with all of your background and family background for fighting for justice, for sure. 4:58 Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. Yes. um Really, you know, I love empowering women. 5:04 I was on the board for a local nonprofit here, the Women's Resource Center, m for a number of years, it just really helping women in tough situations get the resources that they Empowering Women and Community Service 5:16 need. And I was also on the board of uh Public Radio of Northern Colorado for a few years. 5:24 um On both boards, I served as the finance chair. Um, but just really love, yeah, serving, serving women and serving the community. 5:36 So where did that come from? Where did that passion in serving women come from? Because I know you have a degree in journalism, and when you received that, tell me where you were headed, what you were thinking about doing. 5:49 Was that also in regards to serving people? 5:54 really difficult time choosing a major. uh First time around through college, it probably would have been a good idea for me to take a gap year and just figure things out. 6:05 ah So I initially went into college thinking I was going to go into pre-pharmacy. 6:10 And my dad was said, oh, your cousin does that and he doesn't like it, you won't like it. 6:19 And then I was uh really into weather and it took some geography and 6:24 geology classes and thought about doing that. so, but, you know, I kept, uh he really wanted me to get a liberal arts degree and did not want me to go into the business school. Navigating Career Changes and Education 6:37 And um I just had a friend that was in the journalism school and what she was doing sounded interesting. 6:43 So I went into that, um not really knowing, you know, exactly where I was gonna to go with it. 6:50 But I did enjoy learning about that. And my first job out of college, I ended up working for uh a travel magazine. 6:57 That sounds so beautiful. And so you've raised two amazing children and you've done this in the midst of starting a new career after leaving corporate and getting two degrees. 7:10 Tell me about that journey when you were starting at 爱污传媒, you had two littles. 7:18 Yes, I did. So my kids were three and six at the time. um And I had been in a number of different jobs after my first degree and would be there a couple of years. 7:33 then just like I loved the learning part and uh getting to know, then I was getting bored. 7:41 And also just there just wasn't alignment with what I was doing and what... 7:48 I felt like I wanted to do. And I had been interested in accounting since high school, really. 7:53 And I had taken an accounting class in high school and did well in it and enjoyed it and again was talked out of it. 8:00 um But my father said, you won't like that. You don't want to go down that path. 8:07 the second time around, um I decided that's what I wanted to do. 8:12 And at that point, my marriage was kind of rocky. And I was thinking, I'm 8:17 I'm going to probably end up a single mom here at some point. And I really um want to have a better foundation for financially supporting myself and my kids. 8:29 And it just seemed uh like the path that I wanted to take. So I was working full time for a public company in really the tech industry. 8:44 at the time in their accounts receivable department. When I went back to school, I did all my studying at Starbucks because it was too, you know, with two kids running around at the house, was too busy. 8:56 So I would go in to Starbucks at six in the morning before work, usually once a week. 9:03 And then I had class two nights a week. And then I met with a group on Saturdays and would study. 9:10 And I took Sundays off. But I still managed to go to the gym. 9:16 And then we moved and we moved during that period of time to a town about an hour north of Denver and I commuted back to Denver for my classes em at that time and 9:30 And just, yeah, it was two years. mean, at one time, at some point, it seemed like a long time. 9:37 And other times, it went really fast. But my kids saw me studying. 9:47 so, you know, and sometimes they would want to be with me when I was doing that. 9:53 And it just, I really loved the program. And I was exhausted afterwards. 10:00 And I wanted to take the CPA exam, but I needed rest after two years of working full time and going to school. 10:08 So I took six months off of studying um once I graduated em before I started studying for the CPA exam. 10:17 And then I spent six months in intensive study for that um and took all the tests and passed them all the first time, which 10:27 which was really amazing. tell me how important is rest? 10:33 Because I know that you in your later years, I believe we were talking about it just a bit ago in 2023 was when you were diagnosed, which we both have in common being diagnosed with The Importance of Rest and Self-Care 10:45 ADHD in our adult years, but also in the same year in 2023. 10:51 I know that for me, sleep was a struggle and it had a lot to do apparently with my ADHD and the 11:00 the schedule in which I was moving in my life. When you were diagnosed, was that something that was in alignment with you as well? 11:09 Sleep is I've always actually been a good sleeper until about four months ago, but that's situational with some things I'm going through. 11:18 em for the most part, I've always been a good sleeper. em I rest is so and I know that's not the case for for so many people. 11:27 em And so, you know, again, structuring things so that em we can, we can rest and taking 11:39 taking time to do that. Oftentimes it's we're just out of sync with our rhythm and just understanding our own rhythms. 11:47 you know, with the seasons, I'm all about talking to women about cycles. Like we've all dealt with cycles our whole life, right? 11:55 But really being in cycle with understanding the cycles of the seasons and with nature and how much light or dark there is. 12:04 In the winter, I tend to rest more. with it's darker, it's colder em than in the summer. 12:13 And em when there's more light and it's just more active and the whole energy is more uplifted. 12:22 But understanding your own personal cycles, like I mentioned, my six week em cycle and just quieting the mind is often what gets in the way of sleep and 12:36 know, just being conscious of how much caffeine you're having. Like I don't have any caffeine after usually 10 o'clock in the morning. 12:43 As if I have afternoon caffeine, affects my sleep. 12:51 um you know, I go to bed, have a cup of chamomile tea before I go to bed. 12:57 um You know, I ah take naps occasionally when I feel like I need extra rest or I 13:05 or if I didn't sleep well, if I'm able to do that. 13:11 And just really checking in with my body and seeing what I'm feeling called to do. 13:21 But in journaling is very helpful to get things out of my head. If I wake up in the middle of the night and I can't go back to sleep, I'll often grab my journal and brain dump whatever is going on in my head out on a piece of paper. 13:33 and it's like it just releases it and I'm able to go back to sleep. I heard you say that you don't do caffeine after 10. 13:41 As a mom of a little two year old who is definitely about like 80 in his head, like he is so wise, he runs the whole house. 13:50 And with my seven year old, who's just like the kindest sweetest little baby who also has ADHD, uh caffeine is my closest. 14:01 Yes. And I know I'm just super sensitive to it. um I have literally a cup of coffee in the morning that is half calf. 14:10 And then I have a cup of mate. And then I don't drink any caffeine after that. 14:16 I mean, even if I have, if I had two cups of regular coffee, I would be like this, like, but I know that for some people with ADHD, caffeine actually helps them focus. 14:28 um And sometimes I once in a while, um again, if I've, if I've really had like multiple days without enough rest, um I will, I will kind of break my own rule and do that too. 14:42 And that will help me help me focus. Sure. I imagine that has to do with the fact that there are a few different ADHDs. 14:49 So I know that you are more than aware of that. Give us the information. 14:54 Give us some knowledge on the three different forms of ADHD. Yeah, so there's hyperactive, inattentive, and then a hybrid of both of those. Understanding ADHD and Its Impact 15:07 And it shows up differently in men or in boys and girls or men and women. 15:14 And this is often why boys are diagnosed much earlier in life than women are because we are able to hide it better. 15:23 We are able to mask and uh come up with all sorts of workarounds. 15:30 em And boys tend to have the more hyperactive em type of ADHD, although I know women who have that that type. 15:40 em And women are more the inattentive type. 15:46 em But and then some some are hybrid. 15:54 So it can be any of those above but know, women often, because of being told like, you know, sometimes we have difficulty managing, managing time, uh forgetting things or being disorganized or uh 16:14 just some different things that can occur with ADHD, we can become to a point where we don't trust ourselves. 16:22 em And so it's super important to have, em to rebuild that trust with ourselves. 16:29 So that's a lot of the work that I do with my clients to recognize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with them. 16:35 They are amazing and wonderful as they are, and their brain just works a little bit differently. And so they need to set up structure in their 16:43 in their lives, um, to be able to support them, um, in a way. 16:50 So, I mean, I like to say that time management is really more about energy management because we can get dysregulated more easily than other people. 16:58 We need to be able to manage our energy extremely well. And so trying to, you know, force the hardest thing we have to do in the day at a time of day when we 17:11 don't have the most energy or after we've done something difficult is going to make it even more difficult. 17:16 ah And so, you know, it's fun to gamify things or create themes. 17:23 Like I have clients create theme days, like Fridays might be Finance Friday, that's when they focus on their money. 17:30 Another day might be uh like today is my Wellness Wednesday. So I always make sure even if I haven't 17:37 you know, gotten out. I haven't gotten out and done anything Monday and Tuesday, I make sure that I always get some exercise on Wednesday and then I, um, you know, might just do something, something 17:50 extra, extra either nice for myself or healthy with, with that. So it's, it's nice to do things like that, but setting up, you know, getting support and you know, if you're running your own business and you hate doing the bookkeeping and so 18:03 you procrastinate on it, And it just drains you like there's no tomorrow. 18:09 Get a bookkeeper, like free up your energy. Um, you know, because, uh, what you're really good at, you're really good at. 18:18 And that's where you should be focusing your time and energy and getting support in the areas that drain you. 18:25 Yeah, I hear you saying that your energy is very valuable and to put it first. 18:33 So set yourself up for success. I love the themed days. I'm absolutely stealing that. 18:41 Wellness Wednesday, Finance Friday. What are we? Is it Meditation Monday? 18:47 Those are my only two theme days for myself, but I have I have I do meditation every day. 18:52 but yeah, I mean, some people have have theme days every day. 18:58 It just depends. You know, I have it. I have I have a couple that I'm coaching. 19:03 I'm doing personal financial coaching for a couple and helping them with with debt reduction and budgeting and and 19:12 I told them this at the beginning and they just did not believe me. And I was like, we have got to get you to a point where you get a dopamine hit when you are working on your money. 19:20 And they just looked at me like, that's never going to happen. Well, it's happening now. 19:26 And they are just so excited about it. And they are making such progress. 19:33 they just, they wouldn't have believed it five months ago. But they, you we've, we've set up goals and, and structures so that 19:42 they are able to do things in a way now where they actually are excited about it. 19:49 my goodness. you are a life coach and so much more financial. uh Tell us about the business when it started and your services and your clients and the typical experiences. 20:04 Yes. So I started my business in 2022 and I worked that part-time alongside. Coaching Women Entrepreneurs with ADHD 20:11 I was still working in public accounting at the time, part-time. So I was doing both part-time. 20:16 And then I went full-time in my business in October of 2023. 20:23 My clients are all solopreneurs. 20:30 So I think I've had a couple that maybe had one employee, but very small businesses, service-based businesses, um and all women. 20:41 um I do work with couples, as I mentioned this other one, but they em are both self-employed and they both were diagnosed with ADHD in the last few years. 20:51 uh Both of them, because their son began having some issues and he was diagnosed and then they started questioning and 21:01 then they both got diagnosed. Yes. So I have 21:06 Because people don't know that it's hereditary. Yes. Typically if your baby has ADHD, the likelihood of it coming from mom or dad or somewhere close in the family is high. 21:18 Yes. So I have clients who are not diagnosed and they don't care to get diagnosed. 21:24 They're like, you know, I'm, sure I have it. I don't care. Like this is how I am. 21:29 Like I don't, I'm not going to take anything. I don't need to know. um Other people, you know, are diagnosed. 21:35 um And other people have come to me with no idea that they might have it. 21:40 And through talking about it, they've gone and gotten tested and found out that they have ADHD, which explained a lot of. 21:47 lot of things for them. But really I kind of have a few different paths. I work, I have some financial professionals I work with. 21:54 So I have clients who are CPAs, financial advisors, bookkeepers, and I really work with them more on um self-trust and confidence and bringing some spirituality into their life 22:09 and their business and really understanding their energy and cycles and uh managing um 22:16 their business. have a client recently, a CPA who was working six days a week almost the whole year. She's a single mom. 22:22 And um we have her to a place now where she's now working four and a half days a week and her income went up 100K. 22:32 So she raised her prices. She fired some clients. She got some better fitting clients and she got more efficient with some of the things she was doing and delegated some things and she's now making more money and working less. 22:46 um And then I work with another subset of clients who are not financial professionals. They're service-based business owners who maybe struggle with either doing their own books or maybe they have a bookkeeper, but they send in their financials and they don't even 23:00 know what they're looking at. They don't know how to read them. They don't know how they can help them. And so, you know, we spend some time on that and again, structuring, really structuring the doing time management and energy management and um again, slowing down, reconnecting 23:13 with themselves and redefining success and getting clear on their values and then I um I work with couples as well. 23:21 My goodness. So you're over there just changing lives. 23:27 You will be definitely I mean, I know that even just chatting with you now. um When I was diagnosed with ADHD, and started to do the research finding out uh what I was experiencing, what hyper focus was what, um what it was like to just be disinterested 23:44 in something to find out what drives ADHD, which is very different than So neo-divergence are typically driven by like interest as opposed to, you know, like wanting the desire to reach this particular goal. 23:56 We're always really excited about something. If I'm curious about it, then I'll dive in. So, and what it's like to be bored with something and not want to do it. 24:04 I thought that like, where did all my excitement go? I really wanted to do this thing and now I don't want to do it. 24:11 That's weird. Yeah, I like to see if somebody, know, for us, those of us with ADHD, if we needed to work on something that we find incredibly boring, it takes like the heat of 1000 suns to get us 24:24 to do it. Like, you know, so it's really important that we, em you know, we are interested in that or and or if if it's something we absolutely have to do, and we're, we're not interested 24:36 in it. That's where the energy part comes in, we've got to make sure that we are at our peak energy level. 24:41 em And, and figure out a way again to, to theme it to gamify it to get help, I find co working to be incredibly helpful. 24:51 And I offer that to my clients, anyone who's in my program, we, they're able to join me for co working sessions, or body doubling, whichever you want to call it. 25:01 yes, that would be incredibly important. It's more fun with someone else. 25:07 Yes. And you know what, I find podcaster is like my sneaky way to body double, because it sounds like someone's talking to me, like they're kind of communicating with me. Tools and Strategies for ADHD Management 25:16 So I'll listen to a podcast while you may be doing laundry or something that I typically don't necessarily want to do. 25:22 But that and the other one that took me back was the, when we're overwhelmed and there's just so many things to do and yes, frozen. 25:33 I didn't know what that was for years and years. to just sit and think and panic and have anxiety about the fact that I have all these things I need to do, not knowing where to start and just literally being frozen and sad 25:46 about it. And then finding out that that's actually in line with ADHD. 25:52 It's so common and, um, you know, often we're so driven. There's so many things that we want to do. 25:57 mean, I have, um, you know, tons of lists. used to have lists and sticky notes absolutely everywhere. 26:04 Um, and I found a tool called to do it spelled T E U X D E U X. 26:10 that's for creating a to-do list, but it's made for people with ADHD and it things roll over from day to day. 26:18 If you don't cross it off, it goes onto the next day. So you don't lose it. um And there's some day list for it's like, well, I have this idea, but I don't know, I'm not putting it on today or tomorrow or the next day. 26:29 I'm putting it my someday list, which you can categorize and it's really fabulous. And then there's another tool I learned recently called Neuralist that helps you put in all the, you know, all the things that you want to do today. 26:41 And it prioritized them for you based on, you know, how I analyze it uses AI. And I've just started playing with that. 26:48 But I have a client with ADHD who's finding that super helpful for her. Well, I will have to check that out. 26:55 I know there's a lot of different AI tools that are coming out uh to support people with ADHD. 27:01 I do love that it's taking away that negative connotation behind being like a neo-divergent and giving people the opportunity just to say like, this is how my brain 27:11 works. And there's literally nothing wrong with it. It's actually, I consider it a superpower because if I get hyper-focused on something, you better guarantee it is going to get done and done well. 27:24 So I consider it to be, to be a superpower. And I know that others that I know do as well, but having information and having coaches like you to be able to help us align those other aspects of ADHD that aren't as bright and 27:40 fun as, know, having a lot of energy or, you know, quickly getting something done or getting excited about something, but the darker, like the frozen or the 27:50 having a hard time getting out of bed or like whatever those situations may be that could also be aligned. uh Having a coach like you that can personally dive in to the situation and help assess and realign has to be really powerful. 28:04 It sounds like it's been really powerful for your clients as well. Absolutely. 28:10 It's just, mean, I get, I get so much joy from seeing my clients, just seeing them uh grow and, and begin to trust themselves and believe in themselves more that, and really 28:24 understand that, em you know, embrace the superpower pieces of it and, em and learn to create against structure in ways to work around and 28:35 some of the things that are more difficult and manage their energy better and that they, you know, they just, um it's just, it's like, they're just shining so brightly. 28:47 And I'm just, I'm so inspired by my clients every day. So not only are you changing lives with people with ADHD and entrepreneurs, but you are also, as if you're not busy enough, writing a book. 28:59 Tell us more. I am this book has been on my heart for years and years. 29:05 And it's for women and it's about personal transformation and resilience. And it's, it's based on the element of fire, there's burning bridges or burning something that no longer serves you like writing down a list of things that you want to release and Writing a Book on Transformation and Resilience 29:19 let go of and burning that I actually did that yesterday, we did that in my intentions workshop, we wrote down all the things that we want to let go of from 2024, or things that 29:28 held us back or limiting beliefs. It was like, I have to write this book. 29:33 It has to be written like there's people who need the information in this book. 29:38 couldn't agree more. What a great way to end this particular episode of degrees of success. 29:45 Michelle, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and thank you for your service. 29:50 Your passion for women and for women that have ADHD that are entrepreneurs and families is impactful. 29:57 And I know that you've changed a lot of lives and more are coming. So thank you for that. We are proud of you here at the 爱污传媒 as our 爱污传媒 alumni. 30:07 And somehow that brings us to the end of this episode of degrees of success. I'm your host, Freda Richards. 30:14 Don't forget to like, subscribe and comment. And remember your next chapter just might be your best one yet. 30:21 Have a great day.

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Redefining success: A journey of self-discovery

爱污传媒 alumna Michelle Kooi is a life coach and entrepreneur who focuses on women with ADHD. In this episode of the Degrees of Success podcast, host Freda Richards talks with Kooi about her life and career, the importance of self-discovery and rest, and practical strategies for managing energy and productivity.

Opening quote

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- Life is about finding the people who get you and sticking with them. That encapsulates all of it.

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Students at 爱污传媒 who find the place where somebody gets them, just stick with them.

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Just stick with them and you'll, you'll get over that mountain.

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- I wanna talk about your doctorate that you received here at 爱污传媒. Is this where CAA was born in your mind?

Founding of CAA

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- Yeah, well, CAA at this point in time is an inclusive collegiate partnership.

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So the first college that we were able to

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sit ourselves onto was West Valley College in Saratoga, California.

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We had gone through 10 plus years of just being all over the community in whatever

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space we could find. And it changed all the time. Our goal was to have an equitable spot on the college

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campus for our students. Like other adults in the community have access to when they wanna go back to school, they go,

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if they wanna go to college, they go to the campus. And so whatever that campus is, we needed a campus space

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and just that central hub. And it took, just like with my University

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of 爱污传媒 program, it took a lot because it's like trying to get the brain around it.

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Now what do you do again? And now is that, would it be like a department of our college

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and you know, just trying to explain what it is. So here's what it is. It's its own private nonprofit,

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charitable 5 0 1 c three.org program for adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities.

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It's private college program. As a private college, it's providing, you know,

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professors and campus space and all the things that you would expect at a college. It's an equitable college for these adults

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who historically have not had access to structured high higher education in the same way

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that other adults have in our communities. And they're one of the last groups in our community that has really had the gate shut on them at the

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college campus. And not, not because they don't want to educate them, they would ask all the time for ourselves and others.

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We, we were always going into meetings at colleges 'cause they were looking at how do we serve these adults?

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You know, how do we do it in an equitable way? And we would say, just put us on campus.

What is CAA?

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We have a program, it's all developed. We just need a place. And then to show how it works so we can replicate it on other campuses

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or other people could, we can start the movement. Just put us on your campus and the first college to say, we have space, we can do that.

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Come on over. Was West Valley the only one so far? And so we are forever indebted to them that it's our,

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our flagship campus there, just the creative

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forward progressive thinking of the West Valley Mission College District. So unbelievably supportive to our students.

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So we situated ourselves there. And then from there we've been

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able to put together the depth of programs

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that, that our students really expect when they're coming to tour college.

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- Tell me about some of those programs. - Well, we have 10 schools of study. So now we're a college of liberal arts.

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Everything from science and, and dance and digital media studies with, you know, movie making

Schools of study

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and all that to communications and language studies, Spanish, Italian, Chinese, you know,

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whatever it is that they want to study. Our job is to come up with a way to make it happen in a school of study.

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And so they, our schools of study are very broad, like communications houses a lot.

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We have a brand new one that just opened up the School of Leadership and Civic engagement, which comes out

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of classes that were happening where the students really wanted to be able to work in

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that area during their class time as part of their structured learning. We have diploma tracks undergraduate, graduate,

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and postgraduate our students, as I said, with Downs Autism,

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any, any, any ability that they had come in with any learning ability.

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And people say like any level, but we really don't look at it as levels. It's just what are your strengths today

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and what are we working on as your next step? So their programs are progressive, where

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whatever it is that they need today is what they'll get in that class. They're gonna put in the hours of experience with

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and exposure to skills that are required to complete that class. And when they complete it, they get their credits.

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So we have students graduating with an undergraduate diploma from our college who are at all different areas

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of learning in different subject matter, but who have passions and have been pursuing them, things that they love.

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And then when they get into graduate studies, it, then in an even bigger way, it's how do we contribute with

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that in the community? How do we get out into the community with that? How do we start doing something with that?

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And then postgraduate studies is just again, how to maybe globally, so like locally, nationally, globally,

Student progression & diplomas

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just continuing to move out. We had some art students that were part of a global art exhibit, which is wonderful

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and inclusive global art exhibit to show their work, their meaningful work and just things like that.

5:39

We, it's, it's based on what they want to do and what their goals are, of course, but we have those opportunities for them.

5:45

And then if they finish their postgraduate diploma and they still wanna learn, then they can do a postgraduate too with another emphasis.

5:52

And we're getting better and better as time goes by at being able to develop the infrastructure of

6:00

administrative databases and all those things needed to manage transcripts and learning goals and helping the students

6:08

and families understand where they are on their diploma journeys, you know, in their portals and just putting the,

6:14

putting them in the driver's seat. Say, here's where I am, here's what I need, here's how I wanna do it.

6:19

And I'm getting, you know, a, a larger and larger student advisory capacity going

6:25

within our college. You know, when you're a, a startup nonprofit, still pursuing a code that really fits what you do

6:33

and funding that really fits what you do. It's, it's an interesting task to try to build things

6:40

and staff them and, and you know, you get really good at being, you know, le tiny but mighty and just bringing in everybody's ideas

6:49

and you know, knowing that you don't have to invent every wheel. And that's what we really hope is to find other programs doing the same thing that we are

6:57

with lifelong opportunities for unlimited numbers of students online, on site

7:03

with all these different areas of study. And really focusing on getting adults everywhere.

7:08

Anyone who wants to come in and learn to be able to find those opportunities, they can then learn to take actions on and move forward and,

7:15

and make changes with. So we're looking for 'em. And I hope anybody that listens to this podcast that knows

7:23

of a program will contact us. We have a lot of friends and programs that are those post senior or those like more finite number of people

7:30

or number of years or whatever in different colleges and different communities. But we know they're out there

7:35

and we don't wanna invent every wheel. And, and that's another thing, somebody that comes into the diploma program at University

7:43

of 爱污传媒, for example, say their doctorate 'cause that's where I was and they don't know where they're going,

7:48

but they just know what they have a passion for. And maybe they don't have a job doing that right now, but it's something they'd like to do.

7:55

That's, you know, that's really the key is to just as we're finding, to be able to get, to get

8:04

what you are doing, put together in a way that you can share it with other people

8:09

and get it encapsulated somehow so you can offer it. That's, that is such a tough thing

8:15

to do when you know you're trying to figure it out yourself. And the, the assistance that I had in trying

8:24

to put together the ideas that I had for our programs that were just, you know, how do I encapsulate that,

8:30

as I've said, has been just invaluable. But for anyone encapsulating what it is that you are learning and what your specialties are becoming

8:37

and finding out where you can take those to make a change. I think that's, that is one of the big things

8:43

that I know the alumni program too wants to reach out and help people with that have come

8:48

through programs at 爱污传媒 and that is all of our goals. That is the goal. Yeah.

Why focus on adults?

8:55

- You had this experience with your daughter and then you created this incredible college.

9:04

When did you make the decision for it to be adults that are neurodivergent or IDD as opposed to children?

9:11

What, what, what was that that, - So that's a great question. We were coming up with all kinds of programs

9:17

for my daughter, you know, at the age, age range of five to 22. And definitely five to 18 till they get out of high school.

9:24

Lots of programs, lots of parents starting programs for the kids, you know, when they're at home

9:30

and they're not, you know, independent or working on trying to become as independent as they can and maybe getting out of the home.

9:37

But when they're younger, there's a lot of programs in the Bay Area where we were so many

9:43

that you could never possibly take part in all of them. I mean, just wonderful things and all these startup things. I was singing all these new programs popping up,

9:50

popping then the theater and everything else. And so yeah, we, my co-founder

9:55

and I were working with the theater program previously for the kids and I was bringing my theater background when I

10:02

went back for my master's and my daughter was diagnosed and I had to take the big break. I actually was looking at children's theater,

10:09

taking children's theater out to teach kids about all kinds of, you know, lessons and equity

10:18

and diversity and inclusion and all those wonderful things that we were embedding into the shows.

10:23

And the show. One of the shows that I did when I first got with that group was, it was a musical version of The Odyssey

10:30

for Children and I played Athena and it really was life changing because that group

10:36

and that experience made me want to do that with the art form, you know, with my art.

10:41

And so Athena was the second stage of my Alice, and it's Alice and Athena

10:48

and I just love her, her owl, I didn't even think about it at the time. The, the wisdom and the, the, the owl is the symbol

10:55

and the, yeah, it was just such a great experience. And then just that, that imagery of that, it was kind of cool for me.

11:01

So kind of the starting to then where I was going with it, with education and leading, you know, forward and,

11:07

and trying to get out in front of it and just like, you know, Athena did with Odysseus, you know,

11:14

so symbolic in different ways. It can make it whatever, you know, but find a lot in. But anyway, so I have Alice and Athena are my two things,

11:22

but realizing doing that with the kids, that that was really a joy of mine. But then what happened was in that theater program that

11:30

my co-founder and I were working on and my daughter was coming out of high school just finishing high school up,

11:35

she was buddy coaching in it, so was my son. Our first musical was Wizard of Oz. And my son wore all black and had a dog puppet

11:42

and he was toto, let's go this way, you know, was wonderful with them kinda like a buddy coach. And my daughter was buddy coaching Glenda

11:49

and was able to do Glenda in one of the shows just for fun. So they, we were all involved in it

11:56

and then all of a sudden, you know, the, some of our most beloved actors that had started with

12:01

that program were aging out and they couldn't come back and do a show and there was no adult theater program

12:07

that they could just slide right into that was similar, approaching it the same way, which was everybody

12:13

of all abilities on stage together with this wonderful play that was the model was, it's beautiful

12:18

'cause it's, theirs didn't have to look like anybody else's play. A lot of improvisation and fun and joy in music

12:25

and collaborative camaraderie, everything I loved, right? Yeah. So that's what was being built there.

12:31

So we thought, well let's do it for the adults and we'll make this college of adaptive arts. 'cause we had some town hall meetings

12:36

and they were telling us they wanted a college and telling us the problem of not having college. Could it be a real college? Could you teach reading?

12:43

And like, okay, so the first workshops that we did involved all kinds of different subject matter kinda in the arts.

12:49

So everything was through the channel of the arts. And then as it moved forward, then we just started

12:55

to develop more specific classes for those areas and then ended up with the schools of study and now it's a college of liberal arts with 10 schools

13:02

of study and and on like that. So it's really a matter, I think often for families and for parents of really needing to be,

13:09

and rightfully so focused on your child, the age that they are, what they have, what they need, and making sure that you're finding the programs

Arts as a foundation

13:17

for them at that point. And then you do hit a point where a lot of people call it kind of the cliff of service drop off

13:24

and it's not expected. There's a sense that there's gonna be so much there

13:29

for them, they seem so happy in what they're doing and then all of a sudden it just kind of drops

13:35

because, you know, there aren't the programs that the parents are creating and running and everything like there are for the younger kids.

13:41

And for reason, there's reasons for that too. So that was something that we could contribute access

13:47

to doing these whatever it is that they have a passion for and they want to be part

13:53

of their life ways they wanna contribute to the community, whatever that is for them, that we could bring that to them.

13:59

And so d and I would just say we're their agents, like I mentioned before, Dee and I were their agents

14:06

and we just created the stage with the light on them. And we, if we look at an organizational structure

14:12

for college of adaptive arts, the very bottom is us as co-founders and our board

14:18

and our staff is up there kind of like this, you know, the people that are the stage managers and that you'll see out on the stage.

14:25

But, but the, the students are the ones up on that stage, the community's really gonna see and it's their voice we want them to hear.

14:32

And when there's ever an opportunity to, you know, be at city hall to talk about something to,

14:40

there's no anything going on. We really hope the students can be the ones out there.

14:45

And so that's where this new department of leadership and and civic engagement is coming in, is

14:51

to really build up not just self-advocates and advocates for the college or,

14:56

but to really build up those community leaders that are going to be able to step out on that same level.

15:03

And just as CAA created an inclusive place for an inclusive model for higher education,

15:09

have an inclusive model for community engagement. So we're all involved and their voices aren't just heard,

15:14

but they're at an active part of change making and, you know, societal change and pursuing social justice.

15:22

- CAA just sounds incredible and it sounds like it's really supporting people and giving people similar to your daughter,

15:27

that encouragement, that confidence to be able to your point to go out and serve and to create other environments for people like-minded

15:37

or possibly in the same or similar situation, to also also feel empowered and confident.

15:43

So simply incredible. You've had so many students within this 15 years, right?

15:49

- Yeah, yeah. - Tell me one of the success stories. Tell me about what it looks like for people to go

15:56

through this process and a particular person or two that had a re a really pivotal moment.

Student success stories

16:01

- Yeah. Well there's one student in particular that I think of automatically.

16:07

People say, oh, it's, you know, this college is really only for those who would be able to go to community college

16:13

but might have a learning disability or they're very high functioning. So, and they, but, but what about, you know, our student who doesn't read

16:21

and, you know, they just to understand it's for everybody. So we had a student come in who we thought was, you know,

16:30

mostly everybody kinda thought was nonverbal, it was just selective speaking I think, but very nonverbal

16:37

and had some physical issues, deformities and things going on and had not ever thought about being involved in different

16:46

kinds of physical activities or arts that's physically, you know, dance, things like that.

16:53

And so actually found out that they could participate in dance and came in

16:58

and found their way that they were gonna bring their spirit to that art form.

17:05

And it was incredible and, but didn't have the confidence to

17:10

pursue other areas of learning. Like, for example, reading that was so difficult or science

17:17

or, no, don't even talk to 'em about science. They don't want school, they don't want homework. We don't have homework by the way. So the students love that everything happens in class like

17:25

it would if you were homeschooling everything's in class so that they get exposed to things with the instructor in a way

17:31

that's guided and strategic and then they have home activities they can do, but it isn't about grades

17:37

and being competing with other people. It's about where you are and moving that forward, whatever that ends up being by the end of the semester.

17:43

So once the student comfortable with that, then started pursuing some of these other areas and ended up finding a huge love of poetry

17:52

and literature and still is working on those reading skills that now has been exposed, not only exposed to

17:59

but has experienced, you know, great literature that they never approached before. And being able to be part of conversations

18:08

and get out into the community to present information

18:13

or what have you in, in a way that they're speaking so wonderfully

18:18

and communicating in their own communication style so beautifully because they have the confidence to do it

18:24

and not even thinking about being nervous about it. So just overcoming all the boundaries of fear of failure

18:30

and anxiety and those things that get in the way of really feeling like you could approach higher education

18:36

and finding out that it can be for you and that it will be set up for you. And then being able to broaden the scope of

18:42

what you're learning to the point where now you're in the community communicating, you're in the community dancing, you're in the community,

18:48

sharing messages in so many different ways and impacting people. So that's really neat. And then another student who did go

18:56

to a community college, we was with us for several years. We did not know that

19:02

that student actually got their diploma from that community college and they completed it,

19:08

but they didn't have any place to put what they were interested in. And then that was journalism and working on a paper

19:15

and had always worked on school papers and was really active in the paper at that community college.

19:20

And we had no idea that their dream was to like be an editor right, of a paper and

19:25

or to create their own paper. And this they, they knew they could do it and how to do it,

19:30

but what would the resources be and where would you have, where would you do that, where you'd have the support to be able to do that.

19:36

And so we said, well, okay, let's start a paper. And so this was a graduate student who's now in our

19:42

workforce development program and we started finding more and more of this out and oh my gosh, you have

19:48

that much journalistic background. Bring us in your columns, let us see what you've written. And so her, her goal is to be a professor at the college

19:56

and now she's producing our first Cardinal Times newspaper for our students and reporting on things.

20:04

The students went to a Barracuda's hockey game, they're invited to go to Barracuda and she interviewed a player

20:09

and she wrote an article about that and they invited her to come and interview a player. And that was just incredible, you know, opportunities that

20:18

what journalist in the Bay Area has a chance to do that every day and know back in the clubhouse

20:24

and you know, get involved. And so, and then a student that just recently discovered photography as an interest, who

20:32

before thought he might like to maybe work in the classroom with, with fellow students

20:37

and things as a staff member, maybe a goal for him. And then he got involved with photography in one

20:42

of the classes with an amazing teacher and now he wants to be a photographer. So guess what? He's a photographer.

20:48

He's the photographer for the, the times that the other student is the editor for.

20:54

And they are the team that are building this paper up and now he's finding this area totally out of the box

21:01

and non-traditional. And he's going other places and doing photography for them

21:06

because he's learning how to take some great pictures and he's doing it just, you know, he loves what he does and if he can, you know,

21:14

build into doing this vocationally in some way, it would just be a dream come true. And so not ever having explored that,

21:21

he didn't even know he had that interest. And now he's the photographer, the the photographic journalist for our, for our paper

21:29

that we're producing for our college. So just really neat stories like that all the time all around.

21:35

And those that really had an anxiety going back to school because they had felt like with maybe learning disabilities

21:42

or whatever the issues were, some of them have had real extreme bullying in their past and they're just not sure it's a safe space.

21:49

So we also have an arts behavioral model that is, you know, making sure that students are respecting each other

21:55

and coming in with, you know, positive attitudes of, of supporting each other and that they can trust each other in that space.

22:02

And the old theater term of we're going to leave it at the door, we employed that we're going to be glad we're gonna leave it at the door.

22:09

And learning that is a skill. That's a, I mean that takes a while sometimes for students to be able to understand the concept

22:15

of leaving it at the door, but an important one path. And then in the interpersonal relationships,

22:21

not just at the college, but with feathers outside of it, you know, the more they're able to employ things like attitude

22:27

and respect and you know, mutuality in their relationships in their classes, then they will know how to apply that outside of class

Behavioral & social model

22:35

and be encouraged to do that. And we treat the class space as a professional environment and how you come into the space

22:41

and how you interact with others in the space, which can be very new to our students. And so that's regardless of if they're there for one class

22:49

or 10 years, that's always gonna be a part of their learning process of those professional skills.

22:55

And then we have a school of business now too for them to pursue, you know, other kinds of professional skills,

23:02

but you know, those social, cognitive, developmental skills that we work on within this curriculum

23:07

that really was shaped and, you know, put into a, a structure that you could share

23:14

and train, you know, with others that is the foundation of everything.

23:19

Not how high do you kick or how well do you write a sentence or you know, how you can, you do a,

23:25

a lab experiment on your own to prove a hypothesis. It's, you know, it's just

23:30

what is your personal best today in your areas of learning choice and what does it mean for you to move forward

23:38

to your next steps and to continue to do that throughout your life. - You've made a pivotal change for these students.

23:48

You've created a place for them to feel comfortable. You've created a place for them to feel powerful

23:53

and you've created a place in them to where imposter syndrome is something of the past.

23:59

And I could, I could only imagine how that had to be transformative for them, their future

24:06

and the next generations coming behind them. So for them, and I'm sure if I were to meet any of them,

24:13

especially the two that you had mentioned, one, a journalist, one a photographer, and doing this with the times

24:19

and also setting up the brand new paper for the college, congratulations and an awesome thank you.

24:26

And your faith, your, your optimism is clear.

24:32

Like it is part of the vision and it is part of the value of the college. And you could see it moving into your students as well

24:38

as they move forward in their life and in their careers. And that in itself is absolutely incredible.

24:45

So thank you for that. Thank you for driving through and pushing past, 'cause I imagine it couldn't have been all unicorns and glitter, there had

24:51

to have been within this 15 years a little bit. There had to have been some rub.

24:57

Was there, was there, was there any, what what challenges did you deal with within this 15 years getting to this point?

Biggest challenge: gaining support

25:04

- The biggest challenge is when people just aren't getting behind you. When you know that what you have can, can con when you know

25:11

that what you have is viable and it's, and and you just are trying to find the support

25:18

and no matter how much you talk about it, no matter how much how you put it out there, it's just not like

25:25

taking root, you know, and you know that it needs to, and it should and it can, and it's not, it's not hard to do.

25:32

This is just us all getting together to do it. You know, we're training our teachers, right? You could have taught somewhere else

25:38

for 20 years in special ed. We still are gonna need to train you in our methods. It may not be a good fit.

25:44

You know, it's like just teaching people what it's about and well, usually it is,

25:49

but you know, it's definitely coming in and learning how we teach in the classroom, which is very different. But that's the main thing is just getting people to get

25:57

behind what you're doing and what the students are doing. That's been the big challenge. And of course, as you're around longer

26:04

and longer in the community, people start to get it more and more understand it. You have people spreading the word for you,

26:10

but then they're talking to people that have never seen it. And it's really, it really requires people, meeting the students, seeing what we do

26:17

to really understand it, seeing it on that campus and understanding what kind of a, of a,

26:23

of a inclusive partnership that can be and how that brings these individuals in our communities

26:29

that haven't had access. How it brings them access and how it is such a social justice issue.

26:35

That, and funding, of course, always funding, but it comes, it's the right thing at the right time.

26:43

By no fault of our own. I mean, we were just, you know, told by everybody else it was the right thing at the right time.

26:48

And we jumped in and we always say, Dee and I, we call each other we're Sisters of the Swell,

26:54

which is this, this watercolor that she got. We have two women on surfboards, you know,

27:00

waiting for the wave. 'cause we always talked about, we didn't even know that we were kind of catching one at the time that we were,

27:07

that this really was so, such a big hole in our educational system.

27:13

And then you've gotta, it's exhausting to ride it, get up on it and try to ride it to shore. Then you get there and you feel like, oh, okay, we hit

27:20

that milestone and then, you know, you're soaking wet and you're tired and you're looking around and you see all of these other people with their surfboards

27:27

that were out there at the same time, you didn't even know were there. And then you're just saying, Hey, okay, let's, let's climb this hill together

27:33

and see if we can get into the valley over there, you know, and where you, and so, and you don't even know what's there,

27:38

but you know, you gotta go to something else. So you're all just climbing the hill together

27:44

and getting strength in each other. We call our supporters mountain movers. They really, truly are.

27:49

But you're climbing that mountain or trying to move that mountain, you know, and then you get to the other side and now you know, there's, there's, you know, somewhat

27:57

of a bounty over there to be able to try to, you know, be part of, but you know, is it gonna go, are,

Climbing the mountain together

28:05

are you gonna be at the table? Is someone else gonna be invited to the table? So now you're all over there looking for tables to be able

28:11

to sit at, you know, and we're talking about our students really, you know, being able to get them a seat at the table in these places.

28:18

And so just, you know, all the, all the work that's required to really just have that hope and optimism

28:25

and what you're doing founded in the fact that you know, that you've, you know, gotten where you are, that you have what you have underneath you,

28:31

but primarily you have that meta support, all those people that are climbing that mountain with you

28:37

and that together you can come up with the information and the resources required to stand on, to get

28:43

to each new level. Like when mountain climbers put in their hook, and I'm not a mountain climber, I'm gonna call it a hook

28:49

and a rope, you know how they have to do that, you know, and if you have multiple yeah. And somebody at the top, you know, helping you out

28:56

and you know, you have to learn to do it before then you can even really get on, get up there at all to any degree, which we had to learn, kind

29:03

of build our processes. So all those things were challenges, but it really is just primarily being able to continue

29:12

to communicate until you can just build that group around you that understands, gets it,

29:18

and wants to go there with you in anything that you do. - Absolutely. Dr. Pamela, you were phenomenal.

29:24

And the, the things that you've accomplished with your partner and, and simply your, your goals

29:30

and aspirations moving forward, wanting to be able to touch and serve more so that they can feel more successful and empowered.

29:39

It's admirable. And so we are proud that you are a university 爱污传媒 alum.

29:45

We are so, so grateful that you joined us today in sharing your story. I know that the listeners

29:51

and the viewers are definitely going to be able to get something from this that brings us to the end

Closing remarks

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of this episode of Degrees of Success. I'm your host, Frida Richards.

30:02

Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe and remember that your next chapter just

30:07

might be your best one yet. See you soon.

Chapters in this video

  • Redefining Success and Self-Discovery
  • Childhood Influences and Aspirations
  • Empowering Women and Community Service
  • Navigating Career Changes and Education
  • The Importance of Rest and Self-Care
  • Understanding ADHD and Its Impact
  • Coaching Women Entrepreneurs With ADHD
  • Tools and Strategies for ADHD Management
  • Writing a Book on Transformation and Resilience

About UOPX alumna Michelle Kooi

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A 爱污传媒 graduate with a bachelor鈥檚 degree in accounting, is a coach for small business owners and specializes in helping women with ADHD. After she was diagnosed with Hashimoto鈥檚 disease, which affects the thyroid, and ADHD, Kooi embarked on her entrepreneurial journey. Her book, , is slated for release July 16, 2025, on Amazon.

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